Appreciation. Its a word with a couple of different but related meanings. I've been giving appreciation a lot of thought lately in how I feel it and in how I show it.
Appreciation can mean to view and admire something for its merits such as appreciating a fine wine or a work of art. In this respect, the word has a meaning which implies a form of reflection. Do we 'appreciate' our families and friends by giving them each individual thought on a regular basis? Many would say they do but I know that I have been guilty of going several days without 'appreciating' some members of my world.
Another meaning of the word appreciate is to increase in value. Do the relationship we forge with people increase in value to us through time or not? Tough question. Sometimes, such as when we are teenagers, the people we need the most seem to depreciate in value...like our parents. Sometimes relationships we hoped would remain important lose their sheen and become more effort to maintain than we can afford. But as adults, the people we choose to have in our personal lives should continue to appreciate in value to us as a function of the experiences we share and the memories we build together.
A third meaning of the word appreciate is to show gratitude. This meaning is perhaps the most open to interpretation when appreciation is actually being demonstrated. I once took a sales course which used the concept of showing appreciation to mean giving full attention and acknowledgement through applause. We would "show some appreciation" whenever a member of the group shared an experience or made a presentation. This example of showing appreciation was a watered down form of appreciation. And yet it demonstrated to me how little we as people let others know they have meaning to us and the apparent need to do it more.
I question how many of us humans do all three and fully appreciate the good people in their orbit. How many people really pause to reflect on those around them, really give thought to the people closest to them? How many people can say that they have relationships which continue to grow in value and importance in their lives? And most importantly, how many people share their thoughts with those same people?
A truly rich life is one in which you are truly grateful for what you have. Take time, show appreciation. It enriches you.
I appreciate you. And this post!
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